kahit ang theo, pnproblema ang pagmamahal

Of all the misconceptions about love, the most powerful and pervasive is the belief that "falling in love" is love or at least one of the manifestations of love.

One by one, gradually or suddenly, the ego boundaries snap back into place; gradually or suddenly, they fall out of love. once again they are two separate individuals. At this point they begin either to dissolve the ties of their relationship or to initiate the work of real loving.

.. real love does not have its roots in a feeling of love. To the contrary, real love often occurs in a context in which the feeling of love is lacking..

Falling in love is not an act of will. it is not a conscious choice... We can choose how to respond to the experience of falling in love, but we cannot choose the experience itself.

Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them. the extension of one's limits requires effort; falling in love is effortless... When limits are extended or stretched, however, they tend to stay stretched. Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience. Falling in love is not.

Genuine love, on the other hand, implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom.

genuine love is volitional rather than emotional. The person who truly loves does so because of a decision to love. This person has made a commitment to be loving whether or not the loving feeling is present.

"Love is as love does"

-Scott Peck, The Road Less Travelled

mabuhay ang theo.